This is too important for me not to mention.
This “Christian” child-rearing manual has led to at least three known deaths through child-abuse.
The book states: "Give 10 licks at a time, more if the child resists. Be careful about using it in front of others — even at church; nosy neighbors might call social workers."
This is literally a how-to manual on how to abuse and beat your children.
Sign this petition to have Amazon stop selling this hideous thing.
OH MY GOD. Okay stop scrolling and look at me. My mother actually used this book. I am a victim of this piece of literary evil, and let me tell you, it has left me with some seriously deep scars. It got to the point that my brother and I couldn’t even laugh. Laughter was considered “foolishness” and we would literally be struck ten times for it if she heard it. Let me reiterate that.
We could not enjoy ourselves or even be happy without being beaten.
One of the “Christian” cult families introduced this to her and yes, it is basically condoning serious child abuse. I actually personally believe in corporal punishment and let me tell you, THIS IS NOT CORPORAL PUNISHMENT. It is heavy abuse and it’s evil, evil, evil. I’m going to go sign that petition, and so help me, if you know of someone using this book, call Child Protective services immediately. The children of that cult family are now actually being rehabilitated because they grew up like robots. It’s a sick fucking book, okay? Sick. Let’s get this thing banned before it ruins anymore lives.
I am the way I am today because of this hideous thing. I cry every time someone even gently reprimands me. I’m afraid of cutting up in public because I think someone is going to hit me. Worst of all: It taught me to tolerate abuse, that I deserved abuse, and that if someone abused me, I was clearly in the wrong. I can’t possibly begin to tell you how dangerous it has been for me. Thanks to people around me who were raised right, I am only now starting to learn to stand up for myself and that, no, I am not an idiot who deserves verbal, physical, emotional, or mental abuse. I am not just a child who will forever be subject to her power-hungry mother.
Most of all… Children are not animals. And really, who the fuck even treats an animal like that??? Please, if you reblog one thing from me, please let it be this. I don’t want anyone else to go through what I did.
This book truly has resulted in the horrific act of child abuse like you have all said, and I fully support the petition to remove it from all book stores and sites. But I ask you to not add this to your list of yet another “reason to despise Christians”. I’m a Christian who’s been on Tumblr a while and all I see is mockery of my religion, yet respect and acceptance of basically every other religion. All I ask is that people don’t see this atrocity of a book and think this is because of “Christianity”. Christianity is not the cause, but human nature and the result of people who label themselves as “Christian”, yet don’t follow AT ALL what the Holy Bible actually says. “To Train Up a Child” is the result of a grave misunderstanding of the Scriptures.
Now here is an excerpt taken from ”To Train Up a Child”:
“Select your instrument according to the child’s size. For the under one year old, a little, ten to twelve-inch long, willowy branch (stripped of any knots that might break the skin) about one-eighth inch diameter is sufficient. Sometimes alternatives have to be sought. A one-foot ruler, or its equivalent in a paddle, is a sufficient alternative. For the larger child, a belt or larger tree branch is effective. When addressing the possibility that a child might object to the abuse, Pearl writes:“When she screams or flees, calmly follow through by physically subduing her. Sit on her, if you have to, and slowly explain that you will not tolerate this resistance.”
This is plain Sadistic and all Pastor Pearl is promoting has nothing to do with what Proverbs teaches in the Bible. Abuse will not teach a child God’s will, nor lead to love in any way. It will only cripple the child emotionally and spiritually and eventually kill the child.
I’m dying to show you what the scriptures that Pearl was drawing from, ACTUALLY says.
Now this is the verse in the Bible that I’m sure Pearl was most influenced by:
"Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him."- Proverbs 22:15.
I can easily see how it can be taken literally. It mentions a rod of discipline.Sounds like it means beating a child with a stick, right? But this is entirely wrong.
This is where knowing how the Bible works is vital. The Bible is about context and I’ve seen almost every verse taken out of context before. A VERY important verse precedes this one. Let me show you what Pearl completely missed:
Proverbs 3: 11-12 states “My son, do not despise the LORD’s discipline or be weary of his reproof, for the LORD reproves him whom he loves, as a father the son in whom he delights.”
This verse is key because it gives us an example of how to raise children using God’s relationship with people as the example. It does not say God abuses his people with a cane or humiliates them. Instead, He reproves them through his Word. He corrects, not by physical abuse, but with verbal teaching and love. There is nowhere in God’s teaching that implies any physical abuse to children. That is because the Hebrew Scriptures uses the image/analogy of the rod as the archetype of a good, loving parent who disciplines using verbal teaching. In Biblical times, shepherds would use their staffs and rods as an instrument of GUIDANCE, to direct their sheep onto the safe path and ward off predators to protect them. They would NEVER use it to beat or strike the sheep.
God uses the analogy of the rod and the sheep not because he thinks of children as animals, but because back when the text was written, shepherding was a common practice and people could easily understand the analogy of the relationship between a shepherd and his sheep. God used this analogy as a way to get people to understand what he meant when he talked about disciplining a child. People back then knew that a good shepherd never abused his sheep, but loved and protected them, gently guiding them along the way. That is what the Bible means by discipline. Psalm 23 talks about the rod and staff as a comfort even, saying “Thy rod and thy staff, they comfort me.”
Ephesians 6:4 states ”Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” The Bible actually condemns even just getting your child angry, so of course abusing a child is out of the question.
I hope and pray that if you actually read all of this, that you would understand that “To Train Up a Child” DOES NOT in any way reflect what the Bible actually teaches. My heart breaks for the children and grown up adults who have been victims of this heinous and false book written by Pearl. I am truly sorry for the pain you’ve gone through and I pray that this disgusting book will be taken down forever. I would like to leave you with one more verse if you want to read it.
[Jesus speaking to his disciples} “See that you do not despise one of these little ones. For I tell you that in heaven their angels always see the face of my Father who is in heaven. What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on the mountains and go in search of the one that went astray? And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray. So it is not the will of my Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.” -Matthew 18:10-14